I had to say goodbye... Regal (1980-2007) UPDATED

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I had to say goodbye... Regal (1980-2007) UPDATED

Postby Regal13 » Fri Nov 23, 2007 8:48 am

I don't know where else to say what I'm feeling but here... It's hard to tell "non-horse people" things like this and expect them to understand. My 27 year old QH gelding passed away yesterday on Thanksgiving. He was on 24/7 turnout (part of his "retirement" that I promised him) and could always come and goes as he pleased. He had 5 acres fenced in just for him and "his pony" (a shetland/miniature cross). I don't know what happened... He was soaking wet in the morning (I don't know if he stood out in the rain at night or was just soaked from sweat) He started looking colicky after breakfast yesterday and by 9:30 he was down. We (four of us) got him up and walking. I stayed with him the entire day and had my brother, dad, grandpa and boyfriend rotate going home for Thanksgiving dinner, so someone was always with me to help when he started to go down. It seemed mild and I didn't want to call the vet out on Thanksgiving, plus we'd gotten him through this several times before and it didn't seem any worse than the others. We tubed him with oil, both ends, and kept him walking but around 5:00 he started panting and got visibly worse to the point where I knew that I had to get the vet out. I called the vet at 5:10 and by 5:15 he was gone. I think he twisted and he died so horribly. I think up to that point he was just impacted because he had gone to the bathroom a little and was passing gas, but he got worse so violently and suddenly that I think he had to have twisted or something. I watched my baby, the one who I fell in love with and got me into horses, lay in a pasture and writhe in pain until he couldn't handle it anymore and give up. He didn't deserve to die like that. He should have died in a stall in his sleep. I hate myself so much right now. I can't even hardly read the screen as I type this. I feel like such a horrible person to have not gotten the vet out there sooner. He didn't deserve to die like that. I'm so sorry to vent here like this.

The part that makes it even harder is that Red, the little pony, just stood out in the field over him the whole night and even pulled the tarp off of him like he thought maybe Regal was just asleep. He kept nudging him to get up and sucking on his ear (something he always used to do when they were just standing around). He is as heartbroken as I am. The pony was a rescue and didn't trust anyone when we got him. He latched on to Regal and the two of them were the best of friends

Here is one of my favorite pictures of him: Regal, as a yearling (1980-2007)
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Postby spex4me » Fri Nov 23, 2007 9:18 am

So sorry Regal!! Sometimes when God calls there is nothing in the world you are able to do stop his plan, so do not beat yourself up for this. Even 27 years cannot begin to feel like enough time spent with a great pal. May you find solace in knowing he is no longer in any kind of pain and probably romping around very much like he did as the yearling you so treasured. Red I'm sure understands as well animals always seem to do in their own way and I am sure he would gladly offer his ear to you. Bless you and your family, 2 legs and four.
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Postby TJ » Fri Nov 23, 2007 9:46 am

Hi Regal,
Sad and touching story. Spex said it all, so don't think of blaming yourself about this. Your love for this horse shines like the sun as I read your words. The pain will go away in time and only the good times you spent together will far overshadow the memory of this Thanksgiving Day. Very sorry for your loss, be strong. TJ

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Postby Crystal » Fri Nov 23, 2007 10:16 am

Regal, we are all here for you. Don't blame yourself. You made him happy all those years. Think of the joy you brought to each other. nothing can console a broken heart, but time.

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Postby Arctic Cielo » Fri Nov 23, 2007 10:33 am

So sorry for your loss, but don't beat yourself up over it, it will only make things worse. He more than likely died from a heart attack from the shock. It would have taken longer for him to die from twisted colon, so the way he went is probably not as bad as you think. I had a horse die like this on me last year.
He looked like a gorgeous boy as a yearling. You gave him a long and happy life.

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Postby Tucumcari » Fri Nov 23, 2007 11:07 am

I am so sorry. Your post brought tears to my eyes. It's sad when our friends leave us... I truly am sorry.
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Postby Rokeby Forever » Fri Nov 23, 2007 11:17 am

I'm sure that Regal has made plenty of new friends by now and that he's running around a field with them. You gave him a nice life - now he has another one! :D
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Postby hev339 » Fri Nov 23, 2007 12:07 pm

Very sorry for your loss! It is always tough to say goodbye to a friend.

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Postby Regal13 » Fri Nov 23, 2007 12:21 pm

Thank you all so much for your words of comfort. I know that he did have a good, long life... He was one of those horses that you know were truly intelligent and had just enough mischief in him (even at 27) to make everyone fall in love with him. He was always a barn favorite and an easy keeper wherever he was. He was truly an "all-around" horse: I did everything with him; english, western, contesting, and his favorite, trail-riding. He was such a gentleman and knew when there was a green rider or a child on him: he would just plod along and ignore all the beginner mistakes like tugging on the bit and confusing signals. I miss him so much already.
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Postby Discovery » Fri Nov 23, 2007 2:48 pm

I'm so sorry...I went through a similar situation at the beginning of the year. One of my horses came in from the field with a leg dangling. Got the vet out straight away and she said that she could talk with colleagues and see about creating some sort of splint (it was his knee) and said that she would come back in the morning. Against my better judgement I agreed. By early the next morning he was dripping with sweat and could no longer stand. Had the vet come out to put him down but he was almost gone by this point. I hated myself for not listening to my gut feeling and putting him to sleep the night before.
I'm sure your boy didn't suffer, it was probably very quick. Maybe he didn't want to force you to make the decision to put him down and took it upon himself. I'm sure he had an amazing life and is now up in horsey heaven.
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Postby NorthStar » Fri Nov 23, 2007 4:58 pm

Regal,

There is a microscopically fine line between hope and a knowing it is time to let go.

Either way, you would be grieving and be in horrible pain, even if the Vet had been able to shorten his agony. You might be wondering if you let him go too soon.

His pain is over.

You kept your promise to him--he lived his life as a cherished and "free" horse.

He is at peace now. He knows all you wanted for him is what was best for him. He would have had just as hard a time giving up on you, as you did him, were the situtation reversed.

Remember all your cherished time together and the gifts you gave each other. Don't let his last day on earth blur all the years you had together.

Let Red and you comfort each other. Horses grieve too :cry:

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Postby geowarrior » Fri Nov 23, 2007 6:17 pm

I'm so sorry for your loss. But you were there with him at the end, and I'm sure he felt your comfort.

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Postby MareMc56 » Fri Nov 23, 2007 7:12 pm

Ditto to what NorthStar wrote so eloguently....cherish the time you had with your man..after the initial heartache will come the great memories that heal.

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Postby winds » Fri Nov 23, 2007 7:36 pm

I'm so sorry for your loss. Everyone pretty much said what I want to say, so there is no point in repeating. He had a good life on Earth and will be at the Pearly Gate waiting for you when you are called by God.

Just know he is happy.

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Postby westover » Fri Nov 23, 2007 7:42 pm

You broke my heart just reading about how much you loved your horse. In an industry that we hear so much negativity your letter of expression although sad, was comforting to me in way i cannot explain. I always think we need more people like you in this world and definitly in this industry. We see horses run & win hundreds of thousands of dollars and then no one wants them. I am sure you are sick with grief but u have to focus on the life you gave that lovely horse. ( i love the picture). I went through the same thing in May and i never thought i could forget the end as it was so painful. I haven't forgotten its painful face, but i have put it in a place where i can lock it away. All i think about now are the happy times and how my own little Quarter Horse, Stanley gave me more in life than any one person or anyone thing. I always visualize him in an endless pasture with nothing but blue sunny skies, never feeling uncomfortable, only feeling content. I am so sorry and for what its worth time definitely helps to forget the painful end. :cry:
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